The right grip

I come from a musical family, so growing up I learned to play many different instruments from guitar to drums to scratching vinyl. Later in life, I watched a violin-centric movie and decided I must learn, and took lessons.

For each new instrument, strange in my hands, my grip would inevitably tighten. That tight grip prevented fluid movement and forced errors.

Finding the right grip is movement towards mastery. Whether literal (playing music, chopping vegetables, rock climbing) or metaphor (writing fiction, managing a junior teammate, trusting your colleagues, raising a child) the vice grip simply will not do.

Strive for whatever the hell the drummer in the picture is doing. Let's call it the "gentle, confident goose grip."